Confession #3: I often talk to my life mate as tho he's my cell mate

I'm pretty sure that anyone who has heard my husband and I talk to each other knows, we're pretty lighthearted. We joke around a lot...(sometimes probably too much), we poke fun at each other and we just like to play around. Now, on the flip side of the coin, if someone heard my husband and I when we're not "playin' around", I'm sure they would say, "um...those two are married?".

Now let me clarify, that's not to say that EVERY time we're not playing around that we're miserable....but let me put it into perspective for you....

Jason and I DON'T live the "American Dream", we don't obsess over climbing the corporate ladder, and we don't argue over things like who's gonna paint the white picket fence out front... and I'm not being mean or sarcastic....I'm being REAL...that's just not where we are in life. We DO however, live on a budget, strive to save money, and argue over things like who's gonna do the dishes. That's my life. Plain and simple.

In the most recent days of "my life", I have found that I don't always communicate the way I probably should to my husband, and thus, people probably would wonder about us.

I guess as I reflect and ponder conversations I've had I really can't wonder why I got the responses I got...on some maybe, but not on others. When I think about how biting I can be I want to kick myself. Just the other day Jason asked me, "Do you think you could make me something to eat?" and my immediate response was, "And you can't do it yourself because.....?"
It was out right rude and unnecessary to say the least. He asked nicely. What was my problem?

The more I think about it the more I realize I do it too often. I come at him with sarcasm and flippant answers. Then it dawned on me, I don't even talk to him like I love him. I don't talk to him like he's my husband...has he called me on it? He sure has, but I think sometimes we need those "A-HA!" Moments you know. Sure enough, I made a comment to my husband the other day in response to him asking me to take care a few errands and it sparked an immediate argument. I left for work angry and the whole way there I kept thinking, "What is his deal? Why is it always me that has to take care of everything? Can't he do ONE THING?" And then it hit me... Would you want to do it if he talked to you the way you just talked to him? Um....NO!

And please don't get me wrong this IS a two sided coin, but these are things that are being revealed to ME for ME to work on.... we're all at different places in our lives and we all need to learn lessons, but they are revealed to us when the time is right.

Will I still make comments that aren't very nice, yeah probably. Will I still get angry at my husband....that's a given!! (LOL) But will I try to THINK before I speak next time.....YES! And will I express what I am thinking or needing from him instead of just expecting him to know...YES.... I am working on all of it.. I am trying my best to be polite and not demeaning, I am trying my best not to talk to Jason like he's my cell mate but my life mate!!!